· Life & Bonds · 6 cards ·
Three cards each for two — how each sees the other, sees the relationship, and hopes it will grow
The picture you carry of the other person right now — which is not the same as who they are. Read it across the row against their view of you: the two images side by side often show where each of you is responding to a picture rather than a person.
Reversed, it may point to a view of them you have outgrown but not yet updated.
How the other person sees you, as far as you can sense it. This is your guess at their view, drawn in their absence, so read it as information about your own assumptions as much as about them. Compare it with how you see them: harsh on one side and generous on the other is worth noticing.
What you think the relationship is, and what state you think it is in. Read it under your view of them: how you see the person and how you see the bond often travel together.
Reversed, it may show a view of the relationship you keep to yourself.
The other person's view of the relationship — again, as you sense it. Set it beside yours: where the two cards agree is shared ground, and where they diverge is usually the conversation you have not had yet.
Reversed, it can point to a view they have not voiced, or one you have not wanted to hear.
What you hope the relationship becomes. Read it against how you see the relationship now, just above: the distance between the two is the change you are asking for.
Reversed, the hope may be held back, uncertain, or shaped more by fear of loss than by wish.
What you imagine the other person hopes for. Compare it with your hope across the row: matching hopes are a foundation, and different ones are not a verdict — just the thing most worth asking them about directly. Treat this column as a prompt for conversation, not as proof.
Choose the relationship and frame a question about how the two of you see things — especially where you suspect you see them differently.
Lay the six cards in position order, row by row, with A's card on the left and B's on the right: first how each sees the other, then how each sees the relationship, then what each hopes it will become.
Read the top row across: compare your picture of them with their picture of you, and notice if one is harsh while the other is generous.
Read the middle row across: where your views of the relationship agree is shared ground, and where they diverge is usually the conversation you have not had yet.
Read the bottom row across, then look up your own column: the distance between how you see the relationship now and what you hope for is the change you are asking for.
Close by writing down one question you would like to ask the other person, treating column B as a prompt for conversation, not as proof.
Each position gives its card a place of its own. Between the cards run a few quieter relationships — the star lines trace them.
| Star lines | Spread | Positions | Best for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Relationship | How you feel · How they feel · What you need · What they need · The bond between you · Advice: the path forward | Explore the dynamics between two people or forces | |
| Relationship MirrorThis page | A · How I see you · B · How you see me · A · How I see our relationship · B · How you see our relationship · A · What I hope it becomes · B · What you hope it becomes | Three cards each for two — how each sees the other, sees the relationship, and hopes it will grow | |
| Inner Child | Inner child's state now · The need once unmet · Belief still shaping you · What they wish to say · Healing you can offer · Strength once integrated | Return to the source — embrace the small one within |
Bring a single question, and turn these 6 cards over slowly.
